When a couple gets engaged, the adventure of planning a wedding officially begins. And although the illusion is shared, in practice it often seems that everything revolves around one person: the bride.
She is the one who receives the most questions, the most attention, the most recommendations. She is the one who is asked how the dress is going, if she has already chosen the flowers or if she has the moodboard. And the groom? Generally, he is left in a more passive role. “Do what she wants”, “you just be on time”, “stay out of it”… phrases that many people hear more than once. But what about the bride and groom who do want to participate?
Getting involved without knowing how
Many men feel a genuine desire to be part of the process, but don’t know where to start. They are not clear about what is expected of them, nor do they have the tools to contribute in a concrete way. Some try to get involved, but feel out of place. Others, directly, disconnect because they don’t want to get in the way or because they assume that “it’s not their thing”.
But organizing a wedding is not just one person’s thing. It is a couple’s stage. And as such, it also deserves to have a space for the groom’s role.
What happens to the groom during the planning?
The bride and groom do too:
- They have doubts (which they often don’t dare to express).
- They feel anxious about not knowing what’s next or if they are forgetting something.
- They get frustrated because they can’t really help or because their ideas are discarded.
- They are burdened with family, self or cultural expectations about “how to help”.
All of this can lead to partner tension, emotional disconnection and, in many cases, an experience that is not as enjoyable as it should be.
The importance of having your own space
Having a specific space to accompany the bride and groom is not a luxury or an extravagance. It is a way to validate their place in the process, to listen to their questions and to allow them to live this stage from an active and connected role.
That’s exactly what we offer with our 1:1 Engagement Consulting service. These are private sessions where we address both practical and emotional aspects of this stage. It is not therapy, it is not traditional coaching. It is concrete guidance, clear and adapted to what you need as a groom.
What do we work on in consulting?
The decisions in which you should really participate (and how to do it without invading or disappearing).
- What questions to ask suppliers if you go to meetings.
- How to emotionally support your partner without losing yourself along the way.
- What to do (and not to do) on the wedding day.
- Practical tips on your attire, timing, speech, photos, personal logistics.
- How to handle stress or external pressures (family, friends, money).
- What it means to have an active, not symbolic, presence on the day.
If you feel that all of this resonates with you, we invite you to book a 1:1 Bridal Consulting session. It’s a private, flexible, non-judgmental space designed to help you connect with your place in this process and truly enjoy it.
🌴 And if you are planning your wedding in Punta Cana, we can guide you with key tools and tips to make everything flow with clarity and zero stress.
Your story also deserves to be lived with intention.